DISCOVER YOU!
UNDERSTAND OTHERS!
MASTER LIFE!
Paul Joiner The Adventure Stylist
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Why Some People Need Villains In Their Life
By Paul Joiner
Some people need villains in their life.They thrive on them.
And if there really isn’t a villain out to get them, they will create one.
Why?
Some people thrive on emotional opposition. And even though they may say otherwise, they enjoy a fight.
Villains provide them with energy for the day they might not be able to muster otherwise. A day without a battle is a day without much to claim, conquer, or talk about.
Quiet, productive, and uncomplicated days demand no hero in the story, so adding a villain is a great plot twist. Now the day’s story becomes dramatic and requires they stand up to the villain and address the battle . . . even if there was not one brewing.
So why would anyone create drama in their life when there is not any?
I believe many people are addicted to the rush it gives them emotionally. I call it the Victim, Martyr, Hero Cycle, and it’s quite addictive. They look to find a villain--one who says or does something that sets the drama in motion. Once in motion, now a lackluster day becomes one they can turn into something more melodramatic where they are the star, or hero. They cycle through this emotional three-stage pattern throughout the day: As a Victim, they receive sympathy from others. As a Martyr, they solicit praise from others....
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Middle child of five. Thumb sucker. Shy. And skinny. Really skinny! What else? Oh, I stuttered. In elementary school every Tuesday and Thursday I was loudly called out of class by a withered educational speech therapist. But my life has been a blast....
The Adventure Styles
24 Ways to Discover You, Understand Others, and Master Life!
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